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If you can’t let go when you go out to play karaoke with everyone,
I can only hide in the fall and brush my mobile phone silently;
When you face "Mr. Tony" and enthusiastically recommend a card,
Whether you can’t refuse to do your hair,
Can only be reluctant to accept;
When you are asked to introduce yourself,
Is it like being in the throat when faced with "public punishment"?
I can only stutter.
If so, congratulations,
You are probably a "social phobia" patient.
So how much do you know about the hotly debated "social fear"?
What is "social fear"?
Social phobia is a subtype of phobia. Phobia, originally called panic neurosis, is a kind of neurosis. It is mainly manifested by excessive and unreasonable fear of some external objective things or situations. Patients know that this fear reaction is excessive or unreasonable, but it still appears repeatedly and is difficult to control.
Panic attacks are often accompanied by obvious anxiety and autonomic nervous symptoms. Patients try their best to avoid objective things or situations that lead to fear, or endure with fear, thus affecting their normal activities.
Why do you get "social fear"?
The source of "social fear" is divided into two main reasons: biological factors and social psychological factors. Biological factors are related to his own innate factors. Such as genes, stuttering and so on.
Socio-psychological factors indicate that social phobia is influenced by significant family and social factors. For example: family defects, environmental factors, social cognitive factors and so on.
What are the specific manifestations of "social fear"?
Specific manifestations: First, the emotional experience is not good, and there will be anxiety, fear and even hostility in social or imaginary social occasions. The second is physical symptoms, which may be accompanied by symptoms such as blushing, sweating, partial body rigidity, stuttering, and unsmooth speech. Third, the social security area is gradually shrinking, and there is a preset self-security area in the heart, which avoids the unsafe and uncomfortable social interaction that I think and retreats to the inner security area.
How to alleviate "social fear"?
1. Don’t put yourself in the right place at will. Pay too much attention to the eyes of others, feel that others are paying attention to themselves, and their every move is being paid attention to by others.
2. Control your breathing and try to relax yourself in a comfortable position when taking a deep breath. Relax your shoulders, inhale through your nose for 4 seconds, pause for 2 seconds, and exhale through your mouth for 6 seconds, and so on until you calm down.
3. Face the situation that scares you. Try to make a list of your fears. What are you afraid of? Where does this fear come from? What is the root cause? When will it appear? When will it be less serious? When will it be more serious and so on can help you to look at the source of your fear objectively.
There are too many misunderstandings about the social fear crowd. However, it is not that we are unwilling to talk, but that we are afraid of the embarrassment of becoming a "topic terminator"; It’s not that we don’t want to get together, but that we are afraid of being more lonely and deserted in the excitement; It’s not that we don’t want to be a gregarious person, but that we are afraid of paying our hearts wrong and hurting others unintentionally.
Most people who are afraid of society enjoy loneliness. But maybe, it just seems to enjoy loneliness. After all, sometimes we want to be people who can laugh and laugh freely in groups.
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